yes I'm disgruntled ( not in a crazy way)

Well I just have to start off by saying that this is not at all what I expected my life would be like. I pictured being a successful business woman, meeting the man of her dreams at 28 marrying at 30 and having my first wonderul child at 32. HELLO!!! Reality is, I barely made it through my bachelors degree, I met "the man of my dreams" at 21 got married 8 months later at 22 with my first wonderful baby at 24. My marriage began while living in my even more disgruntled mother in laws house, which should ahve been the first red flag. I will skip all the details in between for now. At this very moment I am disgruntled for one big reason. I am exhausted! I wake up in the morning, get myself and my baby ready, head off to an exhausting job which I love and hate depending on the day. I work a full day, come home, go work out come back home to cook dinner, give the baby dinner, bath and play with the baby, put her to bed. In between all of this I have to clean house then when its all said and done I have to work some more. All of this while the wonderful "man of my dreams" eats the meal I make while refusing to help cook it and sits on his butt watching TV. Are you starting to understand why I am disgruntled. Now I understand that men are men and Im sure many husbands are like this, but Come On. Why? What gives him the right to then be angry at me for telling him that he is useless to me. I've always been such a pleasant and optimistic person, but I feel like he brings out the worst in me. At what point do we as wives decide to give up our hapiness and sanity. Being a mother to my child I can handle, but I haven't gotten a grasp on doing these things for a grown man. Its crazy that I love this man to death but he drives me so far up the wall. I dont know how to handle it and I dont know how to say enough is enough.